For couples
A calmer way to argue, and a warmer way to come back together.
Check in, take a guided pause when things heat up, and build small habits you both agree on — in a private space just for the two of you.
For iPhone · iOS 17 or later · Free to download, subscription required
Today
Good evening, Alex
“Come back gently. There's no race.”
Jordan today · Mood: Good · Connection: Close
The pause
Pause before it escalates.
When a conversation starts to heat up, start a guided pause: a slow breathing pace-setter, a private moment to name what you actually need, and a time to come back. Your partner can see that you've paused and when you'll return — never anything you wrote.
Pause
Back in 20 minutes
Check-ins
Thirty seconds a day.
Log your mood and how connected you feel. Share it with your partner or keep it private — your choice, every time. Private notes never leave your phone.
Goals
Small goals you both agree to.
Suggested from what you've shared, or written by either of you. Nothing goes active until you've both said yes. Missing a day leaves an open dot — nothing resets, nothing to lose.
Goals
Ten minutes, no phones
Name one thing I needed
Lights out by eleven
Weekly pulse
See the week through each other's eyes.
Nine quick questions about connection, communication, repair, and appreciation. Your answers appear side by side, only once you've both finished.
Journal
A journal that's just yours.
Write down what happened, what you felt, and what you needed. It stays on your phone, and gentle patterns surface over time — never a scorecard.
Reframe coach
Say it so it can be heard.
Turn "you always…" into something your partner can actually hear. On iPhones with Apple Intelligence it runs entirely on your device.
Private by design
Your relationship isn't our data.
- No accounts, no ads, no tracking, no analytics.
- Your shared space lives in your own iCloud — we can't see it.
- Your journal and check-in notes never leave your phone.
- Delete everything anytime, right in the app.
How linking works
- 1
Download Attune and set up in about a minute.
- 2
Send your partner an invite link — or let them scan a QR code.
- 3
You're linked. Goals, pauses, and the weekly pulse now reach you both.
Attune works great solo too — link whenever you're ready.
One subscription, both of you
Attune is free to download. A subscription unlocks everything, and one subscription covers both partners once you link. Plans are billed through your Apple ID and renew automatically until canceled in Settings. New subscribers may be offered a free trial.
Attune is a communication tool, not therapy or crisis support. If you ever feel unsafe with a partner, please reach out to people trained to help — in the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233.